Thank you so much for the questions and the response to last weeks blog. I'm a day late but yesterday was one of those days in which much growth occurs.
I was asked the question; How do you love yourself? at least 20 times as a result of last weeks blog so I thought I'd venture in. But before I do I'll remind those of you that wanted to ask a question and didn't know how, to write me at marxstuff@gmail.com.
The reasons most people are so lost when it comes to loving themselves are far too complicated to get into in a blog. Many of the reasons are personal and individual and require more than 'general' attention. The good news is, that there is a way to show you how to at least begin to realize where some of the problem resides. When you 'love' someone else, what do you do? The 2 most obvious things are, you spend time with them and you are as kind and gentle to them as you can possibly be. Most of us would rather do anything else in the world than spend time alone and we are less kind to ourselves than anyone else we will ever meet. So for this week I give you a prescription and I can't wait to hear the results.
For 10 minutes twice a day for the next 6 days, get someplace where you can not be disturbed by anyone. For one of the 10 minute periods, lie or sit comfortably, close your eyes and focus your mind on yourself as though you were someone you truly loved. Tell yourself the most beautiful things you can think about yourself and if you can't think of any, make them up! Ten minutes is no time at all but I can assure you, for some of you it will feel like an eternity. Don't worry, it will get easier... in fact my wish for you is that it will be very revealing in many ways.
For the other 10 minute period, find an equally quiet place with a large mirror. I want you to look into your own eyes and 'feel' the kind of love you would feel for someone you 'love'.
Right about now, some of you are feeling creeped out and coming up with a million reasons why this is the most ridiculous thing you've ever heard. I can assure you, those thoughts are keeping you from doing a heck of a lot more than this exercise. Most of what they are keeping you from will lead you to everything beautiful you will ever have in your life.
So, there you have it. See you next week. I'd love to hear your thoughts or questions again in the meantime. Have a great week!
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Love
Love is simple.
People are complicated.
Love is unconditional.
People add conditions to almost everything.
Love is energy. Like gravity or light, we can argue about what love is or isn't all day long and love won't care in the least.
It comes through us and from us but it can not be seen, only felt.
We can see the end result of love as inspired action but we can not see love.
That's why most of us have no idea what love really is. We live with our eyes and therefore we see only the face value in everything. That's why most of us are shaped by the world instead of helping to shape it.
We certainly think we know what love is.
How do I know we think we do? Because we so often say "I love this" or I love you". Then we proceed to live a life that proves we do not 'Love ourselves'.
Now, in what other life scenario can someone give you something they do not first have for him or herself? We take love completely for granted.
Just because you can not see love, it doesn't mean it isn't there. Where is the energy that becomes your favorite station until you turn on and tune in your radio?
Energy has a frequency. Love is energy. Just like a poorly tuned radio causes interference with the frequency, poorly tuned people interfere with the energy of love. Become a finely tuned receiver and you will become a finely tuned transmitter.
Love is simple.
People are complicated.
People are complicated.
Love is unconditional.
People add conditions to almost everything.
Love is energy. Like gravity or light, we can argue about what love is or isn't all day long and love won't care in the least.
It comes through us and from us but it can not be seen, only felt.
We can see the end result of love as inspired action but we can not see love.
That's why most of us have no idea what love really is. We live with our eyes and therefore we see only the face value in everything. That's why most of us are shaped by the world instead of helping to shape it.
We certainly think we know what love is.
How do I know we think we do? Because we so often say "I love this" or I love you". Then we proceed to live a life that proves we do not 'Love ourselves'.
Now, in what other life scenario can someone give you something they do not first have for him or herself? We take love completely for granted.
Just because you can not see love, it doesn't mean it isn't there. Where is the energy that becomes your favorite station until you turn on and tune in your radio?
Energy has a frequency. Love is energy. Just like a poorly tuned radio causes interference with the frequency, poorly tuned people interfere with the energy of love. Become a finely tuned receiver and you will become a finely tuned transmitter.
Love is simple.
People are complicated.
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
Do You Create Your Own Happiness?
What is actually happening when someone makes you angry?
Many of us spend a great deal of time angry or stressed out by the words or actions of others.
When someone says something rude to you or about you, are they defining you?
I offer that they are defining themselves. How could they not be? It is your reaction to them that defines you.
If someone is mean to you, that makes them mean. It doesn't make you anything, until the minute you 'defend' yourself, that makes you mean. If their actions define them, of course your actions define you also. You see, if someone walked in the room and did not see them being mean to you, all they would see is you being mean. Explaining to them what happened before they walked in doesn't make what you did or said any less mean.
You have massive personal power. We all do. It is available to you in every moment. Why do you insist on giving it away by making the weakest of those around you responsible for your feelings?
For today, observe your reaction to the things around you that you would 'normally' feel upset by.
Feel your personal power (energy) strengthen as you do not react. Feel the satisfaction in that moment as your body no longer bristles with the toxins flushed through you by anger, resentment or disappointment. Watch how the world goes on it's merry way in blissful disregard for your non action, just as it would have if you had reacted. Peace is every step. As within, so without.
Reward yourself today with your own happiness. No one can ever take that from you unless you let them.
Many of us spend a great deal of time angry or stressed out by the words or actions of others.
When someone says something rude to you or about you, are they defining you?
I offer that they are defining themselves. How could they not be? It is your reaction to them that defines you.
If someone is mean to you, that makes them mean. It doesn't make you anything, until the minute you 'defend' yourself, that makes you mean. If their actions define them, of course your actions define you also. You see, if someone walked in the room and did not see them being mean to you, all they would see is you being mean. Explaining to them what happened before they walked in doesn't make what you did or said any less mean.
You have massive personal power. We all do. It is available to you in every moment. Why do you insist on giving it away by making the weakest of those around you responsible for your feelings?
For today, observe your reaction to the things around you that you would 'normally' feel upset by.
Feel your personal power (energy) strengthen as you do not react. Feel the satisfaction in that moment as your body no longer bristles with the toxins flushed through you by anger, resentment or disappointment. Watch how the world goes on it's merry way in blissful disregard for your non action, just as it would have if you had reacted. Peace is every step. As within, so without.
Reward yourself today with your own happiness. No one can ever take that from you unless you let them.
Friday, October 8, 2010
Gratitude
Happy Friday everyone.
I hope you have a great weekend in store.
I'll settle into blogging once a week or so unless any of you have questions I might be able to help with or comments that need relating to. In the meantime, as this is a brand new blog and already I've received such wonderful feedback, I wanted to use this beautiful Friday to talk about gratitude. Why is gratitude such a useful tool? For starters, it's because we find what we look for. If you don't know what I mean by that, consider this.
It's time to buy a new car, so, you head out to the dealers and you start to narrow down your options. As you get closer to making a decision and you're tossed up between vehicle x and vehicle y you start looking around as you drive from place to place in the car you no longer want. All of a sudden, over the next couple of days, every other car on the road is some version of vehicle x or y. Obviously this doesn't mean they weren't there before, it just means that now that you're 'conscious' of them you find them everywhere. For those of you not old enough to drive or who have never bought a car, you can extrapolate this to computers or watches or jeans or... you name it. So, now that we've established that you see what you look for, why would we look for things to be grateful for and why is gratitude so useful?
When we complain, it's obviously about something that makes us unhappy. The more we complain, the less happy we are and for longer periods of time. When we are grateful it's obviously for something that brings us happiness. We are creatures of momentum: creatures of habit. The more you practice gratitude for the things that are good in your life, the happier you will be and the more you will find things for which to be grateful. Complaining is a virus of the mind. Gratitude is the antidote. Before you go to bed at night and the first thing when you rise in the morning, jot down a handful of things for which you are grateful, five or so should do it. Mix them up so they aren't the same one's all the time. After a while you will find more and more as you move from noticing instances for which to be grateful into a grateful (and infinitely happier) state of mind. As you find more to be grateful for you will have less to complain about. Give it a shot, you have nothing to lose but the time you spend being unhappy.
Speaking of gratitude. Thanks for reading this blog. I very much appreciate you taking the time. Ask a question, leave a comment, tell a friend or 2.
Have a spectacular weekend.
I hope you have a great weekend in store.
I'll settle into blogging once a week or so unless any of you have questions I might be able to help with or comments that need relating to. In the meantime, as this is a brand new blog and already I've received such wonderful feedback, I wanted to use this beautiful Friday to talk about gratitude. Why is gratitude such a useful tool? For starters, it's because we find what we look for. If you don't know what I mean by that, consider this.
It's time to buy a new car, so, you head out to the dealers and you start to narrow down your options. As you get closer to making a decision and you're tossed up between vehicle x and vehicle y you start looking around as you drive from place to place in the car you no longer want. All of a sudden, over the next couple of days, every other car on the road is some version of vehicle x or y. Obviously this doesn't mean they weren't there before, it just means that now that you're 'conscious' of them you find them everywhere. For those of you not old enough to drive or who have never bought a car, you can extrapolate this to computers or watches or jeans or... you name it. So, now that we've established that you see what you look for, why would we look for things to be grateful for and why is gratitude so useful?
When we complain, it's obviously about something that makes us unhappy. The more we complain, the less happy we are and for longer periods of time. When we are grateful it's obviously for something that brings us happiness. We are creatures of momentum: creatures of habit. The more you practice gratitude for the things that are good in your life, the happier you will be and the more you will find things for which to be grateful. Complaining is a virus of the mind. Gratitude is the antidote. Before you go to bed at night and the first thing when you rise in the morning, jot down a handful of things for which you are grateful, five or so should do it. Mix them up so they aren't the same one's all the time. After a while you will find more and more as you move from noticing instances for which to be grateful into a grateful (and infinitely happier) state of mind. As you find more to be grateful for you will have less to complain about. Give it a shot, you have nothing to lose but the time you spend being unhappy.
Speaking of gratitude. Thanks for reading this blog. I very much appreciate you taking the time. Ask a question, leave a comment, tell a friend or 2.
Have a spectacular weekend.
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Do Over
My first blog.
I wanted to start with the concept of the do over because, we'll, you have to start somewhere and because for some strange reason I've been in the company of a few folks lately who want some portion of their time back... a do over.
Today is your do over. The only one you'll ever get today. Every minute you spend wishing something isn't the way you want it to be is one more minute you won't get back. It's also one more minute you could have been changing yourself so that you have fewer life experiences you want to do over.
I can say this for a lot of reasons, not the least of which is: I've lost 32 lbs in the last number of months and I can assure you I didn't lose a single one of them by wanting the time back that it took to get overweight. Looking back, you feel things that aren't real. How do I know they aren't real? Because they are gone. They now only exist in your mind and no where else. When you allow this way of being to guide you, you bring your past into today, every day. How could you not? It is only in this very minute that you get to say yes or no.
Everyone wants to be themselves, everyone wants to be happy. You can't be either looking behind you. Do today like it's your do over. Do tomorrow like it's a do over too but do it tomorrow.
I wanted to start with the concept of the do over because, we'll, you have to start somewhere and because for some strange reason I've been in the company of a few folks lately who want some portion of their time back... a do over.
Today is your do over. The only one you'll ever get today. Every minute you spend wishing something isn't the way you want it to be is one more minute you won't get back. It's also one more minute you could have been changing yourself so that you have fewer life experiences you want to do over.
I can say this for a lot of reasons, not the least of which is: I've lost 32 lbs in the last number of months and I can assure you I didn't lose a single one of them by wanting the time back that it took to get overweight. Looking back, you feel things that aren't real. How do I know they aren't real? Because they are gone. They now only exist in your mind and no where else. When you allow this way of being to guide you, you bring your past into today, every day. How could you not? It is only in this very minute that you get to say yes or no.
Everyone wants to be themselves, everyone wants to be happy. You can't be either looking behind you. Do today like it's your do over. Do tomorrow like it's a do over too but do it tomorrow.
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